How to start a piece when you don’t have the right words, when you are still speechless about the tragedy that happened yesterday but started already a fortnight ago and is there in our cruel world since human beings invented talking with each other?
There is too much going on my mind at the moment to write a proper and straight article but I’ll try to put in order all these thoughts for a quite readable entry.
Yesterday Wilfried Knight committed suicide – one of too many so-called ‘porn stars’ in the last couple of months. So-called because, yes, he did porn but in this society this is something of a stigma. That he was also a loving and well-educated man, who just enjoyed life some certain people had ignored. Live and let live is a pretty simple sounding formula how you should live life but too many people seem to think that it’s better to evangelize other people, to force people to their happiness. Some people think that their own lifestyle is the non plus ultra and when other people live their life differently they have to be ‘cured’ to lead them back on the ‘right path’.
Now Wilfried was a gay man, happy together with his partner Jerry for almost nine years. But they were seperated a fortnight ago, when Jerry committed suicide for reasons you can comprehend on Wilfried’s last blog entry. Please take your time to read all of it. It’s much Wilfried had to say in the last fortnight and with writing it down there was the hope of some kind of a healing process but sadly it wasn’t to be. Wilfried’s heart was too sad – perhaps empty – about the loss of his partner, knowing the majority of our society doesn’t care or even believe that it happened to the right man.
No, it didn’t happen to the right man at all! That shouldn’t happen to any man or woman out there. When people should care about the poor people in this world, about all the injustice that happens every day, people actually care about with whom we sleep and if it’s not man and woman they are judged only by that and not by what are they doing in the remaining 90 percent of their life.
The simple formula of this judgement is: Gay people are being discriminated for the one’s they love. Why does it happen this way? Mostly because the monotheisms out there (Christianity and Islam here are being very much in an unanimous opinion!) think that being gay is wrong and people who are gay aren’t part of this society. BUT: if you so much believe in your God does your religion not also tell you that only God will judge ‘his creatures’? Who are you to try to play God with judging people and try to ‘save’ their souls?
Live and let live! When you think you are on the right path with your wifey cooking for you and caring about your four children – fine then. If you are happy with it (just ask your wife if she is happy, too!) then go on. You simply should just care about your family. But what have you to do with the life plan of other people and families? You may not imagine or understand but to be gay is not a chosen but a given way. GOD-given perhaps? Who knows? No-one knows. But I for myself deeply believe that there is no life after. Religion was invented by mankind and so was God. We are responsible for what we are doing in life. And discriminating people who are different but don’t hurt other people with their lifestyle isn’t just wrong. It’s a crime. And it needs to be punished.
Wilfried’s partner Jerry was forced to die because of discrimination. Wilfried died because he couldn’t stand to live in this world anymore – without his partner, his love. The surprime goal in life is to be happy and these two men were happy. With each other. It wasn’t the prescribed way of being happy so it couldn’t be in the cruel minds of parts of this society.
We are talking about whether gay marriage should be legally equivalent to the so-called normal marriage and people are frightened to do so. And again: why? What are you afraid of? The main argument is that ‘normal’ marriages should be ‘protected’. Protected from what? Gay people only want the same rights as ‘normal’ married couples. Like Wilfried had written: to be recognized as the heir when there is no last will, for example. Many gay couples also like to have a child and trust me: children don’t care if both of their parents have a penis if they love and care about the little one. Or is it better to have man and woman as parents who aren’t love and care? I don’t think so!
So, for the sake of Wilfried, Jerry and all the other gay people who committed suicide because they had no other choice for being happy again:
CHANGE YOUR STEREOTYPICAL THINKING! THERE ARE SEVERAL WAYS TO BE HAPPY. JUST LET PEOPLE BE HOW THEY ARE AND HAND THOSE WHO ARE DIFFERENT THE SAME RIGHTS YOU ALREADY OWN.
DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE FOR THEIR SEXUALITY OR RACE BUT FOR THEIR ACTIONS.
CARE FOR YOUR OWN FAMILY AND DON’T THINK THAT ONLY YOUR OWN WAY OF LIFE IS THE RIGHT AND ONLY ONE.
R.I.P. Wilfried Chevalier